♥ relationships: part 2 ♥

DISCLAIMER: I'm not saying that I know everything about relationships but I have watched some relationship advice videos lately since I needed it myself and it has helped me so far in my own relationship so I though sharing it on my blog would be nice and helpful to some of you. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we do have some problems here and there but just keep in mind that that just part of being in a relationship. I think that this is going to be my last blog post about relationships unless people ask more :3 

One of the most important things in a relationship next to having trust is having communication between the two of you. If you don't tell your boyfriend or girlfriend what makes you mad or you don't like when they do ______, then how the hell are they going to know? I'm pretty sure that no one can read minds, well from the people I know. It's better to tell them all these things before they mess up and you get so angry and they didn't know that it made you mad, it'll be a bigo mess of chaos. Just talk to them, tell them how you feel/how things make you feel, i'm sure they'll understand if they care about you and if they truly do love you they'll do something about it. Just get things out in the open, this will help you maintain a healthy relationship. 

I think that having respect for your special somebunny is really important to me. Just for an example about this issue is; I know I try not to say mean names or swear at my boyfriend when i'm angry at him because it just makes everything worst. I know for a fact that I hate HATE when he swears at me when he's mad at  and ugh it makes me even more mad to be quiet honest. It makes me wanna punch him in the face when he does that. Just keep your cool and respect what you say to your boyfriend or girlfriend  and how you treat them. Personally I sort of suck when it comes to how I treat my boyfriend, sorry honey haha. But i'm working on it ^ u ^ 

This can connect to the communication part from the beginning but another thing to keep in mind is giving each other the time to understand what's going on. Giving time to your partner on what they need to change before you start a big issue on what they weren't aware of. By doing this it'll give them time and they'll get a chance to do something about it.  I mess up a lot on this in my own relationship but it's getting better, i'm aware of most things that make my boyfriend mad but sometimes I fail and then he get really really mad at me but I know that this is something that I need to work on as being a good girlfriend. 

I got this from weylie's video on relationships but she bring up the point of treating everyday as the first day with your partner/the last day you might see them. I know that I can totally agree when she says that sometimes 
people take this for granted, like by saying they're not gonna leave me, we'll get over this, blah blah blah. But that's not the point of a relationship, you want to cherish every moment you are with your lover. You want to be that special person in their life. Just think about how blessed you are to have them. 

I think that treating your partner as your best friend is such a great thing, because if you're spending so much time with this person you need to obviously be happy with this person. Just imagine how you would treat your actual best friend and treat them like that. You got to be there for them when they need you, just supporting them and hearing them out.

You know you can't be so sensitive about things sometimes because maybe sometimes you're just taking things complelely wrong and they weren't trying to be serious,but you get upset because its something you don't want to hear. Then your partner is going to be censoring what they are saying around you and you don't want that. I understand that some things you might not take lightly but just don't take things so serious, unless obviously they're not joking haha ^^ ((*coughs* aaron this one is for you))

That's all I got for now ^^ I hope some of you find this helpful. I know I do, cause i'm working on most of these things everyday to be honest. It's all these effects that make a difference in a relationship ^^ And well if you're single and reading this, then you're just preparing yourself for you will need to do/will be aware of these things and that is very,v ery good! I wish I knew all this stuff before going into a relationship but yano, you know little by little.
You're all so lovely and don't you forget it! ^^ byeeeee to the nice people that actaully read this! 

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